Healing your spiritual safe space

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This is the third blog in the “spiritual safe space” series. In order to do the exercises in this blog, you first need to practice the exercises in the previous two blogs: creating your spiritual safe space and defending your spiritual safe space. Practice and discipline are of the utmost importance when it comes to learning meditation and visualization exercises and implementing them into your daily routines.

Many people are wholly unaware that when the body is suffering, the soul can do a lot to help it through the healing process. Although many things cannot be healed by faith alone, you can combine spirit and science quite easily. The things I’m going to teach you here are exercises that I have developed for myself over the last nineteen years (yes, I am only thirty and have been doing it that long). I began learning about non-medicated pain management from a nurse in the Shriner’s Hospital in St. Louis, Missouri, when I was 6-years-old and I developed my own routines based off of her fundamental help. Exercises like these are especially helpful if you’re like me and have gone through addiction to narcotic painkillers and you cannot take them anymore or you’re hesitant to depend on them so much. I’m not advertising these exercises as a magic cure all. I am saying that you can be proactive in controlling your own pain and illness. Every doctor I’ve ever worked with agrees that healing the body is just as much about your mental constitution as it is your physical constitution.

So let’s get to it. Just as we did with every other exercise, we begin by getting into a comfortable position and focusing on our breathing. It doesn’t matter where or what position, just as long as your body is able to relax to a degree. First you want to begin by closing your eyes and taking slow, deep breaths. I’m an anxious person by nature, so this step takes me longer than others. There is no time limit. Focus on your breathing. Let yourself experience the rhythm of breath in your body, how it fills your limbs with life, and feel your lungs filling and deflating with each breath. As you feel your body beginning to relax, take further deep breaths. Each breath pulls you further under a warm blanket of comfort and further into your spiritual self. The noise of the tangible world fades away with each breath. You sink away from the physical and emerge into the spiritual safe space that you built for yourself. You should be very familiar and comfortable with this space by now. It’s yours. You’re safe and nothing can touch you here without your permission.

The breathing exercise that I was taught as a 6-year-old going through multiple surgeries is like this: take in a slow, deep breath and count to five, hold it for three to five seconds, and then exhale slowly like blowing through a straw as you count to three. Repeat as necessary. This is called square breathing. It’s an exercise often taught to people who suffer from panic attacks but I also find that it’s helpful in coping with intense pain because the rhythm forces your brain and body to slow down and relax. If you can’t get into full on meditation, this is a good quick fix that will help as well.

When you’re in your spiritual safe space, create a moving source of water for this visualization. If you’re indoors, create a sink, shower or bathtub. If you’re outdoors, create a river, stream or waterfall. This is going to be used to wash away the substance causing your body harm. Think of the place on your body that is causing you pain or illness. Just for today’s example, we’re going to use my kidneys because they haven’t been functioning well lately and I need some tests soon. I’m visualizing my kidneys in my body. I’m giving the pain and illness a face – something I can fight – and it looks like black sludge invading the organs. Whatever causes me pain at any given time is represented by black sludge. You can choose any other negative representation of pain or illness that you want as long as it registers in your mind as being negative and unwanted. Now you want to visualize your hands in the source of running water. Think about pushing the black sludge through your body, through your arms, your hands, and release it through your fingertips. The pain, the illness, the suffering is being expelled from your body under your own control. It’s leaving your body and going into the current of water or the circling the drain. Take time to feel relief from your symptoms and announce your intentions to the universe: “This pain and illness will not dictate my life. I heal my own energy and I heal my own body. This pain and illness is expelled from my body and not allowed to invade me again.” Once the black sludge is gone, cleanse your hands and arms in the water. You should look clean. Remember how it feels to be relaxed and carry it with you.

Aside from the physical pain, sometimes there are illnesses that suck the life out of us. These can be energy related illnesses like chronic fatigue or fibromyalgia or things of that nature. I’m anemic due to iron deficiency from prolonged use of over the counter drugs like ibuprofen, which causes fatigue, an inability to concentrate, grumpiness, etc. The fatigue brought on by anemia was very intense for a while before I was diagnosed – I could easily sleep eighteen hours per day – so I learned and developed an exercise to help boost my energy at different times in my day.

If your spiritual safe space is indoors, you’ll need to step through that door in your room and go outside for this one. Don’t create a vast outdoor space. Keep everything very contained. A little courtyard with grass, dirt, leaves, flowers and trees will be enough. If your space is already outdoors, make sure you’re facing a tree. Feel your bare feet on the cool, damp grass. Feel the dirt beneath the grass. Become very aware of the earth and the cycle of life. Now as you look at the tree, visualize the roots pushing through the earth drinking up nutrients and water from the soil, going up through the trunk into the branches and into the tiniest leaves. Energy from the earth is given to that tree to keep it alive and flourishing. Once you understand earth energy, return your focus to your bare feet on the grass and visualize that energy coming into you from your toes up through your legs into your torso, your arms and your head, like that tree. Inhale and draw more energy into your body. Inhale again. And again. Give yourself enough energy from the earth to continue moving along throughout your day. This is also an exercise that you can do in the physical world if you have the opportunity to go outside for a barefoot walk.

Just like before, when you feel a greater sense of peace, you will notice a sensation of being lighter as well. You may begin to return to the physical world at this point. Use the same method we talked about in the last blog. Coming out of it is the opposite of going into it. Focus on your breathing again and with each exhale, feel yourself rising up to the physical world. Start to hear the sounds around you, become aware of where you’re sitting, etc. Sometimes it can take a little longer to reconnect with the physical world, sort of like waking up from a long nap, so let your body re-acclimate slowly. Move around where you’re sitting, stretch your arms and legs, and so forth. You’ll feel more relaxed after you’re finished.

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Defending your spiritual safe space

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In the blog I posted on Sunday (read it here), I passed along to you what Michelle Belanger taught me about creating a safe spiritual space. You need to have mastered the directions in that blog before you can attempt the directions in this blog. They are directly connected and this one is a little more advanced. The lesson in this blog was something I learned several years ago. I don’t remember exactly where I learned it but it has evolved over the years into something tailored to fit my needs. You can take what I’ve learned and play with it until you’ve tailored it into something that fits your needs. That’s the beautiful thing about following an individual spiritual path.

Defending yourself against problems in the physical world.

There is always that person. You know the one. This person seems to have everything together and they know it, so they tend to belittle people around them, especially you. It feels like your energy gets sucked dry whenever you’re around them and you begin to doubt your self-worth. If that person gives the appearance of having everything, yet nobody sees what that person really is, then what are you doing wrong? There must be something inherently wrong with you, right?

Wrong.

You can’t change anything about how people feel about you or what they think of you, so now is the time to stop approaching such problems that way. You can only change how you cope with it and how you apply the lessons of negativity hurled at you into your own life. The beginning is establishing defenses for yourself that have a lot to do with refusing to give those people power over you. It’s not as simple as saying, “You have no power over me,” because we all say that but most of us still let people control our self-perceptions. It begins with the desire to maintain your own power and ends with mastering that power.

Let’s begin by finding your comfortable position. We went over this in the last blog. You don’t need to lie down or anything – just get comfortable enough that you can relax. Focus on your breathing. Inhale slowly and exhale slowly, feeling the breath pass through all of your limbs and giving you life. Eventually as you relax, use your breaths to pull yourself away from the physical world and down into the safe spiritual place you already created. The surroundings are familiar and comfortable. You know your space as well as you know your own body and soul. It’s an extension of your consciousness. Nothing can touch you here.

Once you are acclimated to your spiritual space again, it’s time to get to work. Visualize that person giving you trouble right in front of you, whether it’s a physical representation or a photograph or painting. It may not even be a person. It may be an idea or a problem that has too much control over your self-perception. Whatever the problem or person is, you’ve got to get a visual representation established. Now visualize the negative things binding you to that entity – person or not. Use colored cords or pieces of fabric to represent different emotions. In my case, I use thin colored pieces of rope that are tied to the entity and tied to me. Black is hatred. Blue is sorrow. Green is jealousy. Yellow is control over self-worth. It goes on from there into any negative emotion brought to you by that person, thing or idea. These are my colors but your colors may come out differently. On the positive side, choose pleasing colors for good, selfless emotions like love, peace, healing, kindness, etc. Visualize yourself all tangled up in both the good and the bad with the thing giving you trouble.

Now materialize some kind of destructive tool in your hand. This could be scissors, a sword, a Bowie knife, a blowtorch, or anything else that will cut through those cords. Be deliberate as you untangle yourself from the troublesome thing. Cut through each negative cord while announcing your intentions: “Person/Thing/Idea no longer has the power to make me feel [insert negative emotion here]. I cut all negative ties and leave behind only love, generosity and healing.” Repeat that phrase or one like it for each negative cord. Words are not enough though. You have to put every ounce of yourself into feeling the release of each cord being freed of your body and freeing you of negativity through the process. It’s not about changing that person, thing or idea. It’s about changing how you react to the negativity it brings to you. As you cut the cords away, you’re cutting all negative ties. That means teaching yourself to react only with positive emotions no matter what might happen in the future. This is a continuing process meant to help you evolve yourself. Again, it’s not about changing outside circumstances. It’s about strengthening your own defenses and bringing more positive light to you that will help you in all areas of your life. Once the last negative cords are cut away, remind yourself that negative emotion is poison to the soul. You will not get along with everyone you meet but you can choose to react with love rather than hate. You may not immediately see the affects of love vs hate but it does have a rippling impact.

When you feel a greater sense of peace, you will notice a sensation of being lighter as well. You may begin to return to the physical world at this point. Use the same method we talked about in the last blog. Coming out of it is the opposite of going into it. Focus on your breathing again and with each exhale, feel yourself rising up to the physical world. Start to hear the sounds around you, become aware of where you’re sitting, etc. Sometimes it can take a little longer to reconnect with the physical world, sort of like waking up from a long nap, so let your body re-acclimate slowly. Move around where you’re sitting, stretch your arms and legs, and so forth. You’ll feel more relaxed after you’re finished.

Defending yourself against problems in the spirit world.

This exercise is probably more pertinent to those more experienced in spiritual matters, or those who go on paranormal investigations. I would never advise people to go into or come out of paranormal experiences without some measure of preparation and fortification within yourself. Here’s how I do it. You can adapt the visualizations to be anything that makes sense to your own spiritual self.

Just like before, let’s begin by finding your comfortable position. We went over this in the last blog. You don’t need to lie down or anything – just get comfortable enough that you can relax. Focus on your breathing. Inhale slowly and exhale slowly, feeling the breath pass through all of your limbs and giving you life. Eventually as you relax, use your breaths to pull yourself away from the physical world and down into the safe spiritual place you already created. The surroundings are familiar and comfortable. You know your space as well as you know your own body and soul. It’s an extension of your consciousness. Nothing can touch you here.

If you’re preparing for a paranormal experience you want to establish your bubble – your personal space around both the spirit body and the physical body. The goal is to have deliberate visualizations of yourself being enveloped or covered in some sort of barrier that tells you and anything around you that this is my personal space and you can’t invade it without my consent. For me, I stand in the middle of my space established in the first blog and I visualize different thin silk veils descending from above to cover my limbs like a second skin. They are different shades of blue and purple. As I’m establishing this personal space to be carried throughout the pending paranormal experience, I’m reminding myself that I’m a strong spiritual being and nothing can harm me. The silk veils snake around my body, my arms, my legs, my hands, my feet, my head, etc., until I feel secure. Many, many people go for the standard of bathing themselves in white light and that works just as well but I’ve always had trouble visualizing white light so I tried other things. I also know people who visualize the process of putting on armor – like actual medieval armor – and that works very well for them too. As a medium, I tend to prefer thinner barriers that will keep me safe but allow me to communicate with my surroundings as well. Whatever you use, take the barriers with you as you return to the physical world and emerge from the meditation.

If you’re decompressing after a paranormal experience like an investigation, you want to get into your safe space and go through the opposite process. For me, this entails, the visualization of pulling off each silk veil. You may notice stuff clinging to whatever you’re removing from your spirit body or you may notice a dingy tinge to the white light. Don’t be alarmed if you see weird things like that because it means your barrier picked up extra energy in your experience, whether it was from spirits or the angst of living people around you. It’s very important to brush off anything that shouldn’t be there. You don’t want to carry the angst and problems from other entities with you, living or not, because it will build up and weigh you down in time. Sometimes I visualize water cleansing away anything foreign that my personal bubble acquired along the way and that works pretty well too.

Just like before, when you feel a greater sense of peace, you will notice a sensation of being lighter as well. You may begin to return to the physical world at this point. Use the same method we talked about in the last blog. Coming out of it is the opposite of going into it. Focus on your breathing again and with each exhale, feel yourself rising up to the physical world. Start to hear the sounds around you, become aware of where you’re sitting, etc. Sometimes it can take a little longer to reconnect with the physical world, sort of like waking up from a long nap, so let your body re-acclimate slowly. Move around where you’re sitting, stretch your arms and legs, and so forth. You’ll feel more relaxed after you’re finished.

Hint: if you’re having trouble shaking off a negative encounter, spirit or living, go take an actual shower. The mind has trained itself to view a shower as washing away filth. It’s easy to apply that to anything else that needs to be washed away too. (This hint credited to Michelle Belanger.)

In the next blog, we’ll talk about the way you can use your spiritual safe space to alleviate physical pain and illness.

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Creating your spiritual safe space

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Part of my safe space.

One of the most valuable lessons I learned in San Francisco was from Michelle Belanger. I knew about visualization exercises to calm frayed nerves or to create a shield from bad energy, but I had never been taught to build my own spiritual safety space in such an easy-to-follow manner. Maybe it’s because Michelle and I naturally get along, but I do think she’s a natural teacher and has the ability to help a lot of people. I want to pass along some of the things she taught me but then take it a step further and add some exercises that I’ve taught myself and also learned from my mentor, Nellie Kampmann.

Let’s first begin by talking about what is a safe spiritual space. In simple terms, it’s a place of your own design where you may access it through visualization and relaxation techniques and nobody may enter the space without your permission. Nobody living and nobody in spirit. It’s your space to control as you please. It’s your space to be quiet and think out your problems, seek spiritual answers, calm the affects of physical pain, or anything else you might need from a space of your own design. This, I’ve found, is the cornerstone of any successful meditation experience as well as preparing for and decompressing after a paranormal experience. So if you’re an investigator, it may be important for you to learn these techniques to protect yourself spiritually from energies or entities that you may not realize are there. This can also help build your defenses against psychic vampires – people who seem to suck the life out of you at an abnormal rate whether they are trying to do do or not.

So what you want to do is first find comfortable position. It doesn’t matter where or what position, just as long as your body is able to relax to a degree. First you want to begin by closing your eyes and taking slow, deep breaths. I’m an anxious person by nature, so this step takes me longer than others. There is no time limit. Focus on your breathing. Let yourself experience the rhythm of breath in your body, how it fills your limbs with life, and feel your lungs filling and deflating with each breath. As you feel your body beginning to relax, take further deep breaths. Each breath pulls you further under a warm blanket of comfort and further into your spiritual self. The noise of the tangible world fades away with each breath.

Your awareness will sink into a void if you haven’t built your safe space yet. For some people, the void is white shapeless space. For others, it may be black shapeless space. Begin laying out a small space around your spiritual self that makes you feel comfortable. You can design it to your heart’s content but don’t get too specific at first. Are you indoors? Keep the space manageable and small, like a room. Place each wall with your mind. Some people will reach out with a hand in the vision to place walls or objects. That’s okay too. Anything that gets the job done is okay. What’s on the walls? Paint? Wallpaper? This is your space – it’s all your choice, but be increasingly deliberate in putting it together in your meditative state. Are you outdoors? Decide whether you’re more comfortable in daylight or at night. Shape your land, place the grass, dirt, trees, and even water if you choose. As you get more comfortable with your space, indoors or outdoors, you can begin being more specific with the details and placing objects that make you feel at home. Spend as much time as you need building your space and make it your own. Remember that you can add, detract or change your space at any time, so you don’t have to get too absorbed in details right now. Just declare it as your own at put enough into it that makes you comfortable.

You will need a doorway in your space. This is a doorway completely under your control and nobody can get in unless you allow it. This doorway can have any appearance you choose as well. Supposing your space is outdoors, perhaps you could establish a wrought iron gate on the edge of your property, or a pool of water where souls may come and go, or trees that make a doorway shape, or anything else to your heart’s content. Supposing your space is indoors, simply install a door in one of the walls. You may add a few windows as well but don’t worry too much about what’s beyond your space. It should just be a void out there.

Now comes taking security measures. Use your spirit body to move around the perimeter of your space. Some people feel their spirit bodies are just like physical bodies while others tend to float along without a body – just a consciousness. Whatever is most comfortable for you is fine. Move around the perimeter touching things and announcing that nothing is allowed to invade your space without your consent. Create your energy boundaries by visualizing golden light or any means necessary to establish your space. If you have windows and a door, go through the process of unlocking and re-locking them while announcing your intent that this space belongs to you. Feel the locks in your hands. Or feel the warmth of the protective light as you lay it out around your spiritual home. Bottom line is you’re marking your territory and making your intentions known to the spirit world. Once you’ve completed the loop around your space and locked everything that can be locked, then your space is your own. Occasionally, if you feel insecure, you may go around and repeat this process of reestablishing your spiritual boundaries.

At this point, you will need to come out of the meditative state if it’s your first time in your new space. You don’t want to do too much too fast. Get to know your space when you have quiet time and you will start to find yourself feeling calmer and more centered progressively each day (if you meditate daily). Coming out of it is the opposite of going into it. Focus on your breathing again and with each exhale, feel yourself rising up to the physical world. Start to hear the sounds around you, become aware of where you’re sitting, etc. Sometimes it can take a little longer to reconnect with the physical world, sort of like waking up from a long nap, so let your body re-acclimate slowly. Move around where you’re sitting, stretch your arms and legs, and so forth. You’ll feel more relaxed after you’re finished.

In the next blog, I’ll teach you how to use your safe spiritual space to strengthen your inner self so that those who mean you harm or diminish your self-worth. You can use your internal spiritual space to find your own power. I’ll teach you the exercises this week.

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